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Understanding people
My top green flags. Falling head over feet.
1. Sharing is caring - Food, jokes, stories, vulnerabilities, needs, and wants.
2. Just the two of us - Creating an idiosyncratic language that only the two of you understand. Using terms of endearment other than 'babe', or 'baby' that are special to you both.
3. NIN - Understanding that love is not enough. A relationship will ebb, and flow.
4. Sticky tape - Spending time apart encourages self growth. It's okay to have different likes, and hobbies.
5. Same, same, but different - Having the same outlooks in life. It may not work out if you are looking for different things.
6. To agree, or not to agree - Not being afraid to disagree. It says a lot. You don't feel judged you on your thoughts, or opinions.
7. Yes, and yes - They treat you and the people around you with kindness, and respect. Family, friends, kids, and wait staff.
8. It's the little things - They get your quirky sense of humour. The brand of chocolate you eat. That dish from that restaurant you can't remember what it was called.
1. Sharing is caring - Food, jokes, stories, vulnerabilities, needs, and wants.
2. Just the two of us - Creating an idiosyncratic language that only the two of you understand. Using terms of endearment other than 'babe', or 'baby' that are special to you both.
3. NIN - Understanding that love is not enough. A relationship will ebb, and flow.
4. Sticky tape - Spending time apart encourages self growth. It's okay to have different likes, and hobbies.
5. Same, same, but different - Having the same outlooks in life. It may not work out if you are looking for different things.
6. To agree, or not to agree - Not being afraid to disagree. It says a lot. You don't feel judged you on your thoughts, or opinions.
7. Yes, and yes - They treat you and the people around you with kindness, and respect. Family, friends, kids, and wait staff.
8. It's the little things - They get your quirky sense of humour. The brand of chocolate you eat. That dish from that restaurant you can't remember what it was called.
My top red flags. Back away slowly, and do not make any sudden movements.
1. Compulsive lying - It could be an underlying issue with antisocial, narcissistic, or histrionic disorder.
2. Keeping tabs on you - Not in a cute way. It may be misinterpreted as being protective. Stalking, wanting to know your passwords, or showing up unannounced.
3. Past trauma - While most people genuinely are working through trauma. These people use it as heavy lifting for the reasons they are this way, or why they treat you badly. Playing the victim can only get you so far.
4. Manipulation - Into doing something you don't want to do. To isolate you, or access money.
5. Drama llamas - Why are we fighting all the time? It wasn't like this with my other ex's. A relationship isn't meant to be hard.
6. The center of the universe - They expect everything from you, and give nothing in return. There is no compromise.
7. Addiction - It can come in the form of: substance abuse, cheating (the thrill of getting away with it), or gambling.
8. Nope, and nope - Using your vulnerability against you.
1. Compulsive lying - It could be an underlying issue with antisocial, narcissistic, or histrionic disorder.
2. Keeping tabs on you - Not in a cute way. It may be misinterpreted as being protective. Stalking, wanting to know your passwords, or showing up unannounced.
3. Past trauma - While most people genuinely are working through trauma. These people use it as heavy lifting for the reasons they are this way, or why they treat you badly. Playing the victim can only get you so far.
4. Manipulation - Into doing something you don't want to do. To isolate you, or access money.
5. Drama llamas - Why are we fighting all the time? It wasn't like this with my other ex's. A relationship isn't meant to be hard.
6. The center of the universe - They expect everything from you, and give nothing in return. There is no compromise.
7. Addiction - It can come in the form of: substance abuse, cheating (the thrill of getting away with it), or gambling.
8. Nope, and nope - Using your vulnerability against you.